A Letter to Three Women who May be Hurting on Mother’s Day

I.

To the woman who has lost her mother:

Sit with me. Tell me about her. How she laughed. What did it sound like? I wish I could hear it, too. 

Tell me about her face. What parts do you miss most? What parts do you love?

Let’s remember together. 

* * *

II.

To the woman who has lost her child:

I’m here with you. You say your heart--that day and every day since--has shattered into a million pieces and disappeared into the sky. 

I see those tiny pieces in you, shaped into grief and love and all the things your daughter loved, too.  

Tell me about her face. What parts do you miss most? What parts do you love?

Let’s remember together.

* * *

III.

To the woman who wants a child, so very much:

This is grief. You may feel this grief intensely right now. Especially when you see mothers and children on Sunday afternoon. Or any Sunday afternoon.

It’s a grief that’s hard to describe. 

The categories include: what could have been. miscarriage. stillbirth. fertility treatments. trying. loneliness. 

Tell me about her face. What parts do you see most clearly? What parts do you love?

Let’s imagine together.

With you,

Jenny

To My Clients, the Bravest People I Know

To My Clients,

Today’s post is for you, to thank you. 

You are the bravest people I know.

You, my client, have lost someone you love. And still, you are willing to sit in the quiet of a room with me, and with grief. 

You, who got out of bed today. I know that was a battle. We honor the sadness and gently unhook from the thoughts.

You, who feels sky-high waves of anxiety. So we practice self-compassion. You breathe with me and I am in awe of your strength. 

You, who is scared of losing her. You look at each other. It’s the bravest thing we can do. To look. 

You feel so very raw today. And yet, you opened this door. You got here. So we drink hot tea together and yes, it’s okay to cry. 

With love and gratitude,

Jenny

If you're feeling the need for some extra support, you can reach me at (510) 361-0346 for a free, initial 15-minute phone session.  Or send me a message at jenniferdiamondbayarea@gmail.com.